I do so agree that reading changes as we do. We start off rooting for the debutant and skip the parts where anyone older is featuring, and then you begin to understand where the older generations come from, simply because we can identify with them.
First you're a lover, then you're a mother, then you're invisible, that's how it works in theatre, (hopefully not in life, though there are parallels!)
Being a mum myself, and still having a sense of guilt over how I regarded my own mum when she tried to intervene, all I can advise anyone, including myself, is : your mother wouldn't want you to feel any lingering guilt. She loves, or loved (in my case) too much for that. It helps to see them as a person, not perfect, but that's all you've got.
These are such beautiful reflections Maria ❤️ it’s also lovely to hear you say that as a mum you would not want your child to feel guilt - I hope that brings the writer of this letter some comfort.
I do so agree that reading changes as we do. We start off rooting for the debutant and skip the parts where anyone older is featuring, and then you begin to understand where the older generations come from, simply because we can identify with them.
First you're a lover, then you're a mother, then you're invisible, that's how it works in theatre, (hopefully not in life, though there are parallels!)
Being a mum myself, and still having a sense of guilt over how I regarded my own mum when she tried to intervene, all I can advise anyone, including myself, is : your mother wouldn't want you to feel any lingering guilt. She loves, or loved (in my case) too much for that. It helps to see them as a person, not perfect, but that's all you've got.
These are such beautiful reflections Maria ❤️ it’s also lovely to hear you say that as a mum you would not want your child to feel guilt - I hope that brings the writer of this letter some comfort.
Thank you, Emma. 🙏🏻 Life has a way of providing answers. Austen knew that!
Insightful